Scientist believe that 95% of our emotions are determined by the way we talk to ourselves throughout the day.
When Beauty and the Boutique was just a distant dream for me, I spent many years telling myself I WASN’T intelligent enough to run a business mainly because back then I associated intelligence with academia.
Being dyslexic as well as a university drop out, I felt I didn’t live up to my own internal expectations.
I now understand and appreciate that intelligence can be measured in so many different ways, and I have come to see my dyslexia as a POSITIVE – it allows me to think differently and ‘out of the box’!
We ALL talk to ourselves in an internal monologue – sometimes without even noticing it! Often, it’s this own ‘self-talk’ that can be negative, harsh, destructive and plain unkind.
By putting ourselves down internally AND listening to our inner critic creates barriers to achieving happy, fulfilled lives, possibly with missed opportunities and more stress…all because of our OWN negative internal chat – I know I’ve been guilty of this!
Negative self-talk (wherever it stems from) can lead to fear, anxiety and depression.
Replacing the words ‘need, have, should, would, could’ with ‘I AM’, ‘I CAN’ or even ‘I WILL’ can actually change YOUR attitude towards what it is you have planned – especially if it’s something you aren’t particularly keen on.
By consciously rephrasing the sentence, eventually, your mind will follow without you even TRYING to! Great brain-trickery!
Take a look at the example below…
You can turn negative self-talk into a positive style of thinking by simply replacing your negative self-talk with POSITIVE words.
Self-positivity is like a muscle; the more you use it the easier gets! But on the days when you find it hard and the negative self-talk starts creeping in, simply ask yourself – would you say it to your best friend?
Here are some more tips to help…
BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND – You believe in your friends, so now it’s high time to start believing in yourself too! If you find that your ‘self-talk’ is not the same as it would be to your loved ones, then you need to stop the double standards and being so harsh on yourself!
Whatever encouraging words you’d say to your best friend, say those words to yourself.
Scientist have proven that smiling releases serotonin – a neurotransmitter that produces feelings of happiness and wellbeing. It’s like a circle of happiness. Smile and you feel happy, and when we’re happy we’re more likely to have much more positive thoughts about ourselves!
We control our self-worth. No one else. When we think positive thoughts about ourselves on a daily basis, our confidence AND self-worth will grow. When we feel we’re being particularly negative, the quickest way to snap ourselves out of this self-deprecating mood is to simply SMILE.
And best of all, even when you don’t feel like smiling, a forced smile will have the exact same benefits to the chemicals in our brains!
So go on, get up, brush yourself off and get ready to move some mountains today! I know you CAN do it – just take it one word at a time.
Makeup Artist | Stylist | Founder of Beautyandtheboutique.com